The Hardest Part...

   I'm sure many of you have been in love, or are in love, and nothing went right. There were all the arguments, and the silent treatments, and the "I hate you"'s...or you just became two separate people. Well from experience, I know what it's like to lose someone that you love. To lose the one thing that you saw everyday, the one person you counted on to ALWAYS be there. And it's not easy, not at all. But you have to be strong. I know, everyone is telling you the same thing. But I'm sure not one of those people are going to tell you how to do it. I will try...

   First thing first, I want you to take all the pictures of you and that person and pick out ONE. Only one. That one, you can keep, BUT I want you to put it in a box or a drawer or somewhere you won't see it all the time. The rest of them, I want you to go outside, with a lighter and burn them. You can never get rid all your memories of someone or something special in your life. Which is why I said to keep one. This includes anything that has this persons name, or something they gave you, any journals....burn it all. No matter what you need that one picture to remind you of the good times you had with that person, but more importantly to remind you of the kind of person you don't need to be with. Remind yourself when it does just pop up out of nowhere, of the things that this person put you through, and remind yourself that you deserve better than that. You deserve someone who is going to treat you like a Queen/King. 

   Second, I want you to pick a song that makes you mad at that person. Turn it on and put it on repeat. You  do not need to feel sorry for yourself. 

   Last, You need to delete them from facebook, myspace, my yearbook, any connection you have with that person needs to get deleted. And don't look back

The reason I made this post, is because I always talk about what people want in another person, but never what to do when things go wrong. I know someone out there needs some advice. I did, and there was no one there to help me, other than saying "you don't need him" or "just get over it already". 

The song that I listen to is Bittersweet Memories by Bullet for my Valentine. It is a rock song but a lot of times rock is the music that gives you the attitude you need. This song helped me because of the lyrics. They say EXACTLY what I should have done a long time ago. I'm telling you so that you don't waste anymore time than you need. 

"Rip my pictures from the wall, 

Tear them down and burn them all, 

Light the fire and walk away,

(There's nothing left to say)

Take the ashes from the floor,

Bury them to just make sure,

That nothing more is left of me,

Just Bittersweet Memories."

Standards...

   Have you ever looked at a couple and said, "That guy/girl is way to pretty for their partner!"? Well 9 times out of 10 they are the happy couple. The reason being, when you find someone that has a WONDERFUL personality, and you love to be around them, but yet they are not so attractive, that personality makes them attractive to you. The "not-so-attractive" people are the ones who are faithful. They are the ones who know that true love only comes once, and they are not going to take it for granted.

   Guys sit here and say, all day long, that they wish they could find a good girl, and girls say they wish they could find a guy that doesn't just want sex. To be honest, you have your standards way too high. Guys who say this are the guys that look for the girls that look like superstars. Well, not all of them, but most of those girls know they could have any guy they want, so they find the smallest thing to throw you under the bus. They are also probably talking to 15 other guys, and those guys are probably telling her that she is beautiful, and sweet, and they can treat her right. Those girls are naive. Girls what a guy who looks AND act like they do in movies. Well ladies, truth be told, those guys are only in the movies. Girls are way too picky. They guys that go to the gym 3 times a day, (yes, I said "a day") are the ones that know they look good. They are the ones who just want to have a good time, because they know that every girl wants them.

   Like I said before, you are not truly happy until you marry your best friend. Your "soulmate". Don't look for your the person you wanna spend your life with. Look for the person you can talk to about anything and you know that they care and you know they are listening. That is the person who will truly make you happy. You can't expect to meet someone new and you like them for a week and you think you should get married. Sorry to break some hearts, but it doesn't work that way. You really have to be friends first. Find someone who is not a 10, find someone who has imperfections, and they have a sense of humor, they like nerdy video games, they don't walk around with their shirts off to impress every girl in the state. Find a girl who wears glasses, or is wearing her pajamas at Wal-Mart or the movie theater. Or even who has a little meat on their bones. Things happen for a reason, and if you haven't found your Mr./Mrs. right, then you are obviously looking in the wrong direction.

MY CHALLENGE TO YOU: Find someone to be your best friend, don't make any moves, but really get to know that person almost better than you know yourself. Lower your standards a little, it won't kill you.

I promise that the right person is out there for you, you just have to learn how to give people a chance.

You Always Ask Why..

Nice Guys...this parts for you. I see a lot of you guys asking why you can't find a good girl...well I figured out the answer. A girl wants a guy who will respect her. Put up with her and love her. But she also wants to feel protected. Yes every girl wants a nice guy but she also wants a badass somewhere inside him. When girls go for mean guys, it's because when another person says or does something wrong to her, he will stand up for her no matter what. If you see a guy trying to hit on your girl, you need to say something. If they pop off to your girl and you can see that it upsets her...say something.
You know how you guys say you want a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed well we want a gentleman all around til someone hurts our pride. Plain and simple. So if you can't stand up for what you love, hell if you can't stand up for yourself. If you let people push you around and you just sit there and take it... when a girl sees that it's a red flag saying "he can't stand up for himself how is he gonna stand up for me?"
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Don't Be A Creeper...

Okay ladies and gentlemen, lesson number one, when you meet someone you should try to be their friend first. Don't jump right into thinking you're in a relationship. Get to know the person first. You should know why they are single in the first place. And if they think you are pushing the limit then don't keep pushing. That is honestly the last thing you want, because then you will only get pushed away.
   Lesson number two. You should NEVER tell the person you just met, who has told you that they don't want anything serious, that you are jealous of them hanging around and talking to someone else. (Talking as in carrying a conversation) jealousy is something nobody likes. Especially when you hardly know either one of them. Don't push the word date. Call it hanging out, or chillin. Date is a word that scares people. Along with commitment, and labels. Take things slow with this person. It's the best thing you can do and besides what's the rush? You have a lifetime to know your feelings and to love someone special. You just gotta get to know if they are the special one.
   Lesson number three. If that person ends up turning you down, don't change your attitude towards them, that will only make you lose them for good and we don't want that now do we?

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Who Is Your Soulmate?

   Obviously there is such thing as love at first sight, but for those of us who are not that lucky, we have to remember that we need to "keep it real". Everyone has that one person in their life that has your back for everything, no question about it, they don't even have to know what they have your back about, they just have it. It's the one person you know that you could tell any and everything to. The one person that you know would never judge you no matter what. It's your best friend.
   Now, someone great once said, "You are truly happy when you marry your best friend." It's very true. How can you put your embarrassing moments, your secrets, your "off-the-wall" jokes, and your heart and soul into the hands of someone you just met? Well, you could always try it that way. But once again you are never TRULY happy until your with your Soulmate, your best friend. If you have someone worthy enough to play that part in your life, don't you think they deserve your love? And everything that goes along with it? I do.
   So please, ladies and gentlemen. Show your best friend that y'all are meant to be together. Just don't be too pushy about it, it could possibly take the turn forbade worst. But highly unlikely...

The "L" Word

   Love is a word that everybody just throws around, when really they just have very strong feelings for that person. Love is not a game and we shouldn't take it for granted. How do you know when your in love? Well honestly, I can't tell you. It's a feeling you get when you think about that special someone, it's the way you smile everytime you look at them or hear their voice. Love is feeling your heart beat faster than a NASCAR race when they text or call you. Honestly love is having that feeling that you know you can't live without that person and you know you're going to grow old and wrinkly together.

   Just because someone makes you feel happy a lot, or they do nice things for you, doesn't quite mean you are in love. It takes quite a while to know you in REAL love. You don't fall in love within a few days or weeks. When you say "I love you" after a short period of time, I feel like you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Although that's why I'm here, to prevent that as much as possible for you. You have to know this person pretty much better than you know yourself. You have to be sure that you love EVERYTHING about that person even the stuff that gets in your last nerve, just because it's a part of who they are.

So...MY CHALLENGE TO YOU: The next person you talk to that makes you more than happy, you can't tell them you love them for at least a month.

   Don't get me wrong I believe in love at first sight too, but even then you still have to get to know each other. Right?