Needing Space

   Now I know how much fun it is to see your partner everyday! In fact it's so fun, it drives you insane right? It makes you feel like you need some space? Well the honest truth is, you really do need your space. Seeing each other all the time, things tend to get boring, or like I said before, routine.
   Guys, you need to get with some more guys. I know that you are starting to get a little woozy from smelling her nail polish, and watching chick flicks. Girls, you need a girls night out, with some martinis. I know you need to get away from the gas passing, and ball scratching.
   It is healthy to get away from each other after spending so much time together. You need something new to take your mind off of them. Your brain is going ninety to nothing about your S.O. all day everyday. It's time for something different.

MY CHALLENGE TO YOU: Stay the night with a friend or family member. Go have your guys/girls night out and have a blast. But you can not talk or text the other one. Until you make it home later that night or the next day. I promise when you see each other the next day you will have stuff to talk about, and you will enjoy spending the time with each other.

Make it habit. One night a week. Go out, have fun, visit your family. It's worth it!

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Keep It Interesting!

   Being in a relationship, most of the time when you have been together for a while, things seem to become routine. The two of you get bored, and sometimes it ends, or you even just keep it routine. In order to keep it interesting, you need to be spontaneous. Go do something you never would see yourself doing on a daily basis, or even a monthly basis.

   SOME IDEAS: Bungee jumping, Sky diving, Horseback riding, Amusement parks, Road trips, or even Traveling. Write them a poem, or write a song, learn how to play guitar and sing it to them!

   MY CHALLENGE TO YOU: Spend some quality time just the two of you, leave the kids with the babysitter or the grandparents ( I recommend the grandparents, they love to see their grand kids, and it's a lot cheaper). Take a trip, or go to a concert... something to get you two out of routine, and back on track as a couple. 

   Always remember, your relationship doesn't have to be boring. The question is, what are you going to do about it? Your answer: well, it should be to make it fun, but it's your choice! 

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Remember: Just Because...

1. Just because it's Monday, doesn't mean you can't buy her flowers (not roses).
2. Just because it's Tuesday, doesn't mean you can't cook dinner for her.
3. Just because it's Wednesday, doesn't mean you can't buy her chocolate.
4. Just because it's Thursday, doesn't mean you can't take her to a movie.
5. Just because it's Friday, doesn't mean you can't play a game with her.
6. Just because it's Saturday, doesn't mean you can't sing her a love song.
7. Ladies, just because it's Sunday, doesn't mean you can't love him.

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Being Comfortable with Yourself

   An important part of a healthy relationship is to be comfortable with who you are as an individual. Girls, you have to love who you are before you can love someone else. 9 out of 10 guys like a thicker woman. So don't be ashamed to have meat on your bones, and wear a fitted shirt or some jeans that compliment your butt. You have to be confident in yourself. Guys like that. They like knowing that you are not afraid to wear anything you want, they like knowing that you are not gonna ask "Does this make me look fat?". They like knowing you are comfortable, walking out of the house in your pajamas, with no make-up on, your hair in a mess, and that you don't care what anyone thinks. To them, that's pretty hot! But at the same time, a guy wants a girl to take care of themselves. They want you to be healthy, so also don't be afraid to hit the gym. Or drink a bottle of water. Don't be scared to go for a jog. In fact, make him go with you. He would love to know that you are trying to stay healthy for him. More for you but for him as well.

   Guys, same goes for you. Be confident with yourself too. Don't send a picture to a girl and ask her if she likes it. You should know she's going to love it because it's a picture of you! A girl wants a guy who is confident in him, because then she knows that you are not just settling for her because you don't think you are good enough for someone "better". When you love yourself she knows that you are confident it her. Girls think Confidence is the sexiest thing a guy can wear.

   Now when I say to be confident, I do NOT mean to be conceited. Girls want a guy who is confident, not a guy who is so conceited that he thinks he can have any girl he wants. And girls, guys don't want a girl who loves their self more than anything else. He wants to know that somewhere in that big loving heart there is enough love for him to stay around.

  Anyways, my point is... you have to be comfortable with your self before you can be comfortable with someone else.

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The Meaning of Love

   So I am sure that everyone knows a version of the song "More than words". Well today's blog is about exactly that. Learning how to express your love with more than just the "I love you"'s. 


   Do something so out of the ordinary, if you are never the one to cook dinner, attempt to cook dinner for the two of you, throw some candles in to set the mood. Do something that the other person loves that you hate doing. Get your brownie points. Take him/her on a romantic date doing something you have never done before. 


  Your main goal should be to, for that moment of the day, take their mind off of whatever it was that has been keeping them upset, or not fully happy. Remind your S.O. that you love them without saying it. Someone can say something a billion times, the exact same way every time, but that doesn't mean you are going to believe them right? No, most of us are all "I have to see it to believe it" kind of people. So let them see it so they can believe it. 

   Even if you don't go do anything. Have a scavenger hunt at home with note cards... get 10 note cards... on one side write a clue to where the next one is, and on the other side write the prize they win for finding that card. If fun, funny, and rewarding. Play funny little games with each other to keep the blood pumping in your relationship. Make them wanna come home and be excited, because they know they are going to have fun. 

MY CHALLENGE TO YOU: You can't SAY, WRITE, EMAIL, OR TEXT "I love you" you have to show it to them. Find something that you know will make them smile, and do it. Do it proud!


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Arguments

   Arguments are what helps keep a relationship healthy and strong. Because even though you are arguing, you are talking to one another. When you argue, you tell how you actually feel, you are not hiding any feelings that you don't want the other one to know. Knowing that you can yell at each other, throw things, call each other names, and let off all your steam, and then still going to bed, giving the other a kiss, and saying good night, that's real love. That is a strong relationship. You know that no matter what, you can say the meanest thing in the world, and your S.O. will forgive you, and still love you. 

   Guys, sometimes a girl is scared to argue with you, because she doesn't want you to leave. So make sure that you always reassure her that you are never going anywhere, that you are hers, and you just want to know what she is really thinking. 

   Girls, sometimes he won't argue with you and he will just make a smart-allic remark, because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. So your job is to make sure that no matter what he says you keep your head up and stay strong. If he says something that really does hurt your feelings, remember, it's only out of anger and he doesn't really mean it. Let him know that you can take anything that he throws your way.

   I know that everyone of you is saying "I hate arguing." and "That is what I try to avoid". But the truth is, is that you NEED to argue, you need to let your anger out, especially if it's about your S.O. That's how they know that you are not going anywhere. That is how they know that you are telling them the truth, that you are not hiding anything and that you are worth keeping around. Because even though you are screaming and yelling at each other, you are communicating with one another. 

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Communication: From That Everything Else Follows...

Communication is at the top of the list of reasons why couples break up. A lot of couples still have their guards up as individuals. When you have a relationship with someone, that one person should ALWAYS be the one who can tear that guard down with no problems. You have to be able to talk to the person you are with, so that you don't become complete strangers to one another. You lose sight of what's going on in the other ones world, and you start to ask yourself question. And doubtful questions are never a good thing. Learn to speak to one another, and if you are the type who, like myself, usually can't find the words to say, write what your are thinking down. Write your S.O. a letter and the both of you can share your thoughts.

MY CHALLENGE TO YOU: Pick one day out of the week that you and your significant other sit down and talk. Whether it be about work, school, family, friends, or even what you are planning to cook for dinner the next day. At least you are talking. Make it a habit to sit and talk, you can even make a date out of it. Go out to eat, or have a picnic, or sit on the tailgate and look at the stars. Find something to do to better your relationship, find someway to let each other know what is going on in your life, and find out what is going on in theirs.




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What Ladies Want from Guys: The Gentlemen Guidelines

   Gentlemen, it's your turn! First of all, just because you look good, or you think you do, doesn't mean you get to go around "hooking-up" with girl after girl. Ladies don't want a man who thinks he can have every girl in the world. That is how you end up with psycho-ex-girlfriends. They don't want to know that you have hooked up with so many girls. That's just UN-attractive.
   A lady wants a guy who knows what self control is. She wants a guy who doesn't make a pass at her. She wants a man who doesn't just tell her she is beautiful to get in her pants, she wants you to mean it. So buy her some flowers. Take her on a real date. Show her that you appreciate her. Even if it's the first date. I know how much you guys appreciate your electronics, and your money. Treat her like she is your life savings and you don't want it to go away. Have an intelligent conversation with her. An even better way to show her that you really like her and that she is not just a piece of ass is to watch a movie at home with her, cuddle up, but don't touch her inappropriately, and don't kiss her. That shows her that you enjoy her company. You could even take her to a really public pace, not the mall because that is too high school cliche. Take her to dinner and let her order off the right side of the menu (where the expensive food is). Pick her up from her place, walk up to the door with some flowers or her favorite candy, or something that will make her feel special. Ring the doorbell, and if she is not done getting ready than that means she is trying to make you feel special, so you should do the same for her. Open every door that you go through and let her walk through first. It will surprise her, because she thinks that chivalry is dead. Let her order first, then she will know you are into her. When you leave, if you have nothing else planned then take her home and walk her to the door. Just like in the movies. I know you all have seen Hitch. Most of the stuff he says really works on girls.
   All I'm saying guys, is don't expect to take a girl to McDonald's, buy her a happy meal and expect her to stick around. I'm not saying that you have to take her to the most expensive restaurant. But take her somewhere that makes her feel good. You can even take her horseback riding if you're into that, or even have a picnic. Girls like quality time.
  Another thing girls want is someone honest. Like I've said before it's all about honesty. Women want to feel secure with their man, because they want him to stick around.

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What Guys Look for in Girls:The Whole Truth!

   Okay Ladies!! If you are single and looking, and it seems like you just cannot find a decent guy or even a guy at all. Maybe you should consider presenting yourself in a different way. I have been asking about 100 guys different questions about what they think. Believe it or not but even the most perverted guys know what they want in a girl they want to keep around. Now ladies, you may think that every guy wants a barbie doll, but truth be told guys would much rather have a woman with brains. Actually 99% of the guys I asked would rather have a girl with brains. So ladies watch the news or read a few books about something other than romance. You could even learn how to play a few strategic video games and really earn your brownie points with him.
   Also guys don't like slutty girls. Yes they like to see cleavage but they don't like to see too much. When I asked, every guy told me that they would much rather have a girl dress respectable. Now that doesn't mean that you can't dress cute and up-to-date with fashion. Trust me, there is a big difference. When you dress fashion friendly, it is okay to wear your shorts, short skirts, your heels, and all that good stuff. Just don't over do it with really short shorts and belts as a skirt. Don't show too much boob, and don't let your butt hang out of your shorts/skirts.
   So ladies just know, your dream guy wants you to be confident with who you are, dress appropriately, have a sense of humor and a great personality, and remember books over looks.



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Honesty and Trust: The Heart of Every Relationship.

Relationships are not always easy. They tend to be that roller coaster that everyone wants to ride, then throws up when it's over. Yet we still want to ride it again and again. First things first, The heart and soul of every relationship is Honesty and Trust. Without these you have nothing and you are wasting your time. I don't care what anyone says, no matter what, when you lose someones trust by no being honest, they are NEVER going to trust you again. Not being honest results in losing the trust of your significant other, and losing that results in nosy partners and a lot of arguments. How do you prevent this you ask? Well for guys, reassure her how much you like her. Bring her flowers every now and then, or tell her she looks beautiful, when she gets dolled up for no apparent reason. Then she won't feel like you will settle for someone else. She won't be tempted to ask questions like "Where are you going?" or "Who all is going to be there" when you wanna go hang out with the guys. And ladies, show him that you are still attracted to him, and only him. Make him feel like you still want him. Guys need to feel like they are wanted and that you need him. Ask him to help you get something off the top shelf that you cant reach, or ask him to check the oil in your car. When a guys feels like you need him, he is less likely to go elsewhere to feel wanted. Show him that he still turns you on as well. I can promise he will do the return the favor!



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