"Lust" is blind. Not love.

  Okay, I have answered questions honestly for all you ladies and gentlemen who actually take the time to read this. Now I have a question for all of you.

Do you really think that the person you are talking to will be faithful if they 

cheated on someone for you? 

Lets be real. They can't be faithful to the person they are with, what makes you think they are going to be faithful to you? Is it because they sit there and tell you they want to spend the rest of their life with you? Or you think they are just the sweetest person in the world? 

Well since I have not lied to all of you yet, here's some more truth. They may be the best sex of your life, or they may be the best looking person you have ever met. Well, they always say, if it seems too good to be true, it most likely isn't real. They will most likely do it again. They are thinking to themselves. "Hmm, I got away with it this time, I know I can get away with it again. 

Please, don't be so stupid as to be the third wheel. Find somebody who has treated his previous girls/boys with respect. Those are the ones you want. Don't let lust be the reason you give up on love. 

But, I will say if you are the one who is with someone who left their partner to be with you, I will give you some tips as to keep a look out, so you're not the next victim. 

-If you see that they are always texting someone, yet they have no texts in their phone, or the ones they have are old. Then there is something fishy going on. I'm not saying that they are, because they could be planning something special they don't want you to know about. But be on the lookout. 

-If you have the password to everything but their phone, and they refuse to give it to you, be just a tiny bit worried. 

-Staying late after work more than one or two nights out of the week is another tip. Nobody really has late meetings everyday after work, and faithful people like to come home and see their family after a long hard day at work. 

Those are some tips. Just remember, if they have done it once, chances are they will do it again. Not always. But most of the time they will. 

I hope you guys have a wonderful day. 

If you have questions feel free to email them to relations.tina@gmail.com

Online Dating...

   Online Dating is something that a lot of people frown upon. My question is how is it any different than the first time you meet someone at the bar, school, or even church. Anyone can change who they are the first time you meet them. It's only when you actually get to know the person and hang out, that you figure out who they really are. Now, I'm not saying that you should trust everyone that you meet online, nor that everyone on there is there for the same thing you are. You just have to know what to do in these situations.

1.) If you are there for really dating, then don't respond to "hey beautiful!" or "wanna hookup?" ... no those people are only there for one thing.

2.) Those of you who are only looking for a one night stand or a friends with benefits type thing. Go to the bar or the club. You would probably have better luck picking up someone who's drunk.

3.) Talk to the person for a few days before giving out your number. Remember that first day they can tell you anything they want. After a few days you might be able to catch them in a lie.

4.) Make sure you see multiple pictures of the person that are not on the website/app.

5.) When and if you decide to meet this person, meet in the most public place you can think of, AND STAY THERE. You want a lot of people around just in case they go psycho crazy. Remember, don't get drunk, and don't let them bring your drinks. either you go get them or your waitor/waitress bring them if you are at a restaurant.

   A lot of people really do find their true love, or even their best friend. Like I said you wouldn't change any of this if you met someone anywhere else. So don't judge someone who is on an online dating website. They don't choose your dates, don't choose theirs.

Honesty > Faithfulness

   Someone here recently, inspired me to write this piece. We were talking about how a person is more forgiving about unfaithfulness, when they are told the truth about it. "The whole truth" as he said. He asked me what I thought and this is what I said...

   "Honesty is the key to every relationship (as I have stated before). Without honesty you are being unfaithful. In my opinion, faithfulness is not just being monogamous, but it's also being loyal and trustworthy, and without honesty, all of that means nothing." 

   I'm sure that not one person in this world likes to be lied to. Although many people in this world lie. Lying, is not only deceitful, but it is also heartbreaking, and the main reason that relationships in this modern day, don't survive. I'm not saying that everyone has to be a saint, but when two people are together, they become one whole. In everything they do, they must think about how the other feels, and what they would think about it. If you are in a relationship, you are no longer your independent individual. So think to yourself "If I tell them something other than what really happened... what are the consequences?" Now, either the person you are lying to will basically hate you, and you just ruined everything you have built up together. (Notice I said together, and not individually) Or, they will believe you because they know you would NEVER lie to them, and they love you. If this is the case, you are going to feel very guilty about what it is you have done, and what you told that person. Somewhere in the back of your head you will be thinking about it all the time. Whether it be because you feel bad, or because you are trying very carefully not to let it slip. 

   Let me tell you, when it does slip, that person will be HEARTBROKEN because you were not honest from the beginning. The matter will be worse, than the actual situation, because not only did you do whatever it is you lied about, but you also lied to them. They will be more upset that you lied in words, and that everyday that passed by you looked them in their eyes, and never said anything. You let them believe your lie. It's embarrassing.  

All in all, honesty is key. Without it you have nothing. 

What is your opinion on this subject. Please, I would love to get some feedback. :) Thank you.

Appreciated?

A girl feels most appreciated when the man shows her that even though she works for what she wants, he can still take care of her and give her everything she asks for and not hesitate. I'm not just talking about material things. But even true love and opening doors...the things that show us there is still chivalry.

Dudes feel most appreciated when we show them we need them. Whether it be yard work, house work, or bed work. Show him that you still need him and he'll stick around!