Commitment

  These days commitment is a big issue in relationships. Whether it be because you are scared of spending the rest of your life with the same person or because you don't care about someones feelings enough to commit. There is a reason for it. However, one reason why people are scared to commit now, is because people jump into things so fast. You meet someone, talk a few weeks, have sex, and either one person wants to be together and convinces you  to do the same, or one of you gets pregnant, and you start trying to work things out.

  Well let me tell you guys something, you can't expect someone you just met to fall in love with you overnight, and you can't rush things too fast. You have to take your time, besides, we have nothing but it. What people now days really don't understand is that when two people are "talking" you are nonexclusive. Which means that you are able to talk to other people. Now, a lot of people get this confused with cheating. DON'T. Cheating is when two people are together exclusively and one goes and "messes around" with another person of interest. When you are talking, give the person some freedom, go out on dates, hang out, just talk. Don't overwhelm them with the pressure of a commitment. If you give them the freedom that they need, they will choose to make the commitment on their own.

  Now, if you are the person who is being overwhelmed with commitment too soon, don't panic, and don't give in. If you panic, you will hurt their feelings, and if you give in your only going to cause them pain down the road. What you do is you is, you sit them down and let them know that you are not ready for a commitment at the moment. If you tell them straight up they are more likely not to hate you and you still have a chance, and you also still have your freedom of talking to everyone.

But not everyone remembers to do this, or even thinks about it, there are still going to be a lot of hearts broken because of commitment. Just remember that when you are with someone, you are committed that person should be the only person getting your attention.