Honesty > Faithfulness

   Someone here recently, inspired me to write this piece. We were talking about how a person is more forgiving about unfaithfulness, when they are told the truth about it. "The whole truth" as he said. He asked me what I thought and this is what I said...

   "Honesty is the key to every relationship (as I have stated before). Without honesty you are being unfaithful. In my opinion, faithfulness is not just being monogamous, but it's also being loyal and trustworthy, and without honesty, all of that means nothing." 

   I'm sure that not one person in this world likes to be lied to. Although many people in this world lie. Lying, is not only deceitful, but it is also heartbreaking, and the main reason that relationships in this modern day, don't survive. I'm not saying that everyone has to be a saint, but when two people are together, they become one whole. In everything they do, they must think about how the other feels, and what they would think about it. If you are in a relationship, you are no longer your independent individual. So think to yourself "If I tell them something other than what really happened... what are the consequences?" Now, either the person you are lying to will basically hate you, and you just ruined everything you have built up together. (Notice I said together, and not individually) Or, they will believe you because they know you would NEVER lie to them, and they love you. If this is the case, you are going to feel very guilty about what it is you have done, and what you told that person. Somewhere in the back of your head you will be thinking about it all the time. Whether it be because you feel bad, or because you are trying very carefully not to let it slip. 

   Let me tell you, when it does slip, that person will be HEARTBROKEN because you were not honest from the beginning. The matter will be worse, than the actual situation, because not only did you do whatever it is you lied about, but you also lied to them. They will be more upset that you lied in words, and that everyday that passed by you looked them in their eyes, and never said anything. You let them believe your lie. It's embarrassing.  

All in all, honesty is key. Without it you have nothing. 

What is your opinion on this subject. Please, I would love to get some feedback. :) Thank you.